Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Wedding Wednesday - Final List

I will say this and I know everyone does, but the guest list is driving me nuts and probably caused me the most stress.
Kevin and I are rich in friends.  We both individually have a lot of friends from growing up, high school and college.  Then we have a lot of Charlotte friends and couples that we hang out with often.  We feel so fortunate.
But when it comes to a wedding, we simply cannot invite everyone.  We have friends that we have been to their wedding as recent as this past year and cannot invite them to ours.  I feel SO badly about it but it's reality.  We cannot invite 500 people to our wedding or even 300.  It just isn't possible....for a multitude of reasons.  Mainly because we simply don't want that many people at our wedding and quite frankly, we haven't won the lottery recently so we just can't do it. 
 As Kevin reminds me, if they are true friends, they will understand.  And I know he is right.  But I just have to be told that very often these days.
So, as we make our final list to send to the calligrapher at the end of the month, I just have to realize that there will probably be hurt feelings.  But unfortunately it's the way the cookie crumbles and I hope that they will still be our friends and understand.


  1. I am going through the exact same thing right now, so you are not alone!! A friend of mine who is also planning a wedding sent me this flow chart to help me narrow it down, its been really helpful!

  2. I got anxiety for you reading this post. I remember this feeling SO CLEARLY 5 years later. The thing is that AFTER my own wedding I definitely understood the guest list "issue" so much more. Kevin's right that your friends will understand & it will be okay! xoxo

  3. I've always thought about how I will one day struggle to narrow down my list! I have lots of friends, friends' parents I've known for years, a huge extended family the invites me to everything. The thought gives me headaches! Best of luck!

  4. This is your day! No one else's. Anyone that has planned their own wedding will understand. And if they don't, I'm sure they'll get over it. Just remember, this day is about you and Kevin. Enjoy it and don't feel bad. :)

  5. I'm with Katie...I feel anxious just reading this. Putting together that guest list is tricky stuff! You don't want to hurt feelings, but at the same time a 500 person guest list is unreasonable! Just remember, no true friend would be angry if they're not invited.

  6. Totally going through this right now! Our church only fits 125 people! So some people won't be invited to the ceremony at all and then we don't even want more than 150 at the reception. Its tough!