Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Wedding Wednesday - Living Together Before?

So today since we are in the thick of buying a home, I thought it'd be fun to discuss living together before married, or not.
 
And as always, this is definitely my opinion only and to each their own.  If we didn't have different opinions, the world wouldn't be nearly as fun.  Right?!
 
We did get good news on the house - we won the bidding war!  Here it is!
 
 
We are SOOOO excited.  Like we can't quit talking about it excited. 
 
It took us 1.5 years to find a home that we both really liked and felt right for us.  It is in our dream neighborhood....you know the one where all the mom's are in the cul-de-sac on Friday afternoons having a drink while all the kids are playing.  The one where the schools are excellent.  The one that isn't too flashy but seems homey.  The one that doesn't look like it was built in a field.  The one that you can't see into your neighbors bathroom window from yours!  The one that has a swim team.  The one with a pool and clubhouse that we can easily walk to from our home.  The one that is closer to Kevin's office and still in decent range to mine and the airport.  The neighborhood we fell in love with from day one of looking that we didn't know if we could make happen.
 
We feel SO fortunate to have found all of this in a house (which happened to be priorities to us!) and be able to purchase it.  We count our lucky stars daily.  We have our family to thank for always supporting our decisions and ourselves for working hard all of our life to be able to do this.  We've both always saved for this.  A home to have a family.
 
When the seller's realtor gave the 91 year old lady our offer and told her about us, she took it right away (didn't even counter!) and said I hope they have just as many wonderful memories in that home and my husband and I did.  How precious is that?  I can just imagine this sweet older lady in her southern twang saying that.  
 
Back to the topic at hand!  We aren't living together until we get married. 
 
I need to sell my condo (majorly!), then I will move one floor down to Kevin's condo which we plan to keep to just have.  Then after the wedding, I'll move down officially to our home!  Of course I'll take a lot of my stuff down now because I'm busting at the seems in my place but we want something to change when we get married. 
 
My friends tease me because we only live one floor apart and have for 5 years now but we don't know what it's like to share a bathroom or chores in one house or agree on what TV package to get or choosing whose cooking utensils to keep.  Yes we have a pretty darn good idea we can live together but we've never done it.  And assuming all goes as planned, we won't until April 7, 2013!
 
That's my story and I'm sticking to it friends!

21 comments:

Hannah said...

I LOVE the house!! So sweet about the little old lady, too. Bravo girl for not living together. Bryan and I didn't do it and we were so greatful after the wedding. It makes it much more special. XO

KTBFerg said...

Yay! I'm so excited for you both! You know R & I didn't live together even though we weren't far. I'm still so glad we did it the way we did it, because it was still "new" & it was still exciting to learn stuff about each other. Like I squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom & Rob from the middle & I leave shoes all over the house while Rob leaves glasses/cups all over. It's just the little things that make it a FUN first year of marriage!! Congratulations!

Dee Stephens said...

CONGRATS on the house!! So exciting! I'm jealous!! ;)
I moved into Brad's place 3-months before we got married b/c it is right when the market was in the worst way and we got a renter.
It also helped us save $$ for the wedding AND I didn't have to worry about all the moving after the wedding.
It's just not something I wanted to deal with.
BUT..saying that. I REALLY would have liked to have stayed in my place by myself until after the wedding b/c I loved the neighborhood and living by myself with The Buddy :)

Carolina Charm said...

CONGRATULATIONS friend! What a gorgeous, gorgoues home! What neighborhood is it in? I really hope you can sell your condo soon! And good luck with all of the upcoming inspections! So happy for you and Kevin!! Housewarming party next April? :)

mFw said...

My parents basically did what you all did! Bought a house about a year before the wedding because it was the perfect house, my dad lived there and my mom kept her condo til after the wedding! I LOVE your house! It's gorgeous and looks perfect for you two! Love the classic look with the red brick! SO happy for you two!!! Sounds like the perfect neighborhood similar to the ones my parents have lived in!

Laura | Our Life in the Queen City said...

GORGEOUS!!! congratulations, again!! it's amazing how, when something is just meant to be, everything just falls into place!!

Jess said...

ITS SO BEAUTIFUL, ANNIE! Congrats and what an accomplishment! I can't wait to see how you decorate the place.

Also, I agree with you on not living with each other before. We had to bc of his injury so we got secretly married at a courthouse when I had to move in with only our families knowing. I guess I'm just traditional that way.

ginastorm said...

Such a beautiful house! Congratulations!

erica said...

Such a gorgeous house! How exciting! Congratulations!!! xo

Miss Southern Prep said...

Oh my goodness, your house is gorgeous! That sounds like the perfect neighborhood--I'm so happy for y'all!

Also, I totally agree with not living with each other before getting married! I guess I'm just super-traditional, but I'm positive that I would never change my mind!

Kappa Prep said...

I am with you on not living together before. Again, this is my opinion, but I just do not see why this is a necessity not to mention you have nothing exciting to look forward to after the wedding! I am glad I am not alone is this :) Even if future hubby was in the house and my condo sold, I would live with friends before. This is something I am very adamant about and might just come to you for advice one day!

LuLu said...

I agree. I love that you are waiting. Keith's job moved us so I bit the bullett and did it and wish that we could have waited so if you have the opportunity it will be so nice. You must have a bloggers party when you get moved though. We could even make it a paint party! :)

Sweet, Pink and Preppy said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful house, I can't wait to see the inside! Husband and I didn't live together before we were married and I'm glad we didn't.

Lexilooo said...

Gorgeous house, congratulations to you and K!

Preppy Pink Crocodile said...

Congratulations! Such a pretty home!!

Most of my life I was adamant on not living together. Now I sort of have less of an opinion. I for sure would not ever consider it until a ring was on the wedding on the books. And still...there would have to be some sort of logistical reason. It's just not really my thing. Or so I say now. But I'm far less opinionated about others choices the older I get.

KK

Let The Tide Pull Your Dreams Ashore said...

CONGRATULATIONS on the house...you totally know when it's the right house! That will be SO exciting to move in together after the wedding. I have been living in sin for years so thank goodness we are engaged now! xx

Caitlin C. said...

AHH congrats on the house!!! This is so so exciting!! And it will make it even better when you get to live together after the wedding. Definitely something to look forward to! :)

Rachel said...

The house is gorgeous! Love it!!

We waited till we were married to move in together, and I personally loved it. It made our first few months of being newlyweds feel different than it did before. In a good way :)

Portuguese Prepster said...

gorgeous home! I can't decide how I feel about living together before marriage, I lean towards the no side but can't say for sure yet. I would hope to wait at least until I was engaged..it just seems like it would be a new and fun adventure to embark on.

Emily said...

the house is gorgeous!! so exciting!! we waited to live together too --- it wasn't even a question for us. it will be so much fun to finally live together as husband and wife!! yay!!

Glitterista said...

Congratulations on such a beautiful home. I love the story of the owner, and am sure you'll make so many lovely family memories there with Kevin. :)