Some people get married right out of school. Some wait until their later 20's. Some wait until their early 30's. And some wait until they're almost 40! Maybe some folks in their 40's, 50's and 60's finally find their spouse. Goodness, sometimes even grandma gets remarried!
Kevin was 38 when we got married, I was 30. We are 7.5 years apart.
Waiting til we were a bit older was the right decision for us. We met when I was 25 and he was 32. That's kinda funny to think about. We were young bucks!
We wanted to get both of our careers established. We both owned homes already when we met but we still wanted to get our feet even more grounded. Kevin had just started at the Bank and I had just moved to my current company. We had a lot to learn and a lot to live. We both got to date lots of people and go out and have a big time with friends. We've traveled, boy have we traveled. We've lived the life!
And we still do! But there will come a time when we settle on down. Maybe in the next few years our family will change and that will be an exciting time. I know there's no perfect time to have a child but we are getting there. Who knows!
When the time is right, it will be right!
I think everyone is different but I truly think waiting until after the age of 30 to get married is good. I think you change a lot in your 20's
ReplyDeleteI'm SO glad we waited until we were 30. I cannot imagine being married at like 24!
ReplyDeleteAmen for waiting. I'm not really waiting by choice anymore, ha...but looking back at who I was when I was in my 20's, how much fun I had and how I've changed I'm so thankful I didn't get married then! I had a friend who got married when she was 23, when she was pregnant with her first kid she called me to talk. I was living in NYC and at happy hour. She said to me "when are you going to get married and settle down? Im so happy I will have my kids early then I can travel enjoy life when I am older because my kids will be raised." I didn't say it at the time but I thought..."That's what I am doing. Living an amazing life when I am young! When you have kids, you will always have them and that extra responsibility." Anyway, years later she has 3 kids and is now divorced. I reminded her of that convo. She laughed at how dumb she sounded and would much rather be where I am (well except for her kids of course.)
ReplyDeleteI think everyone should do what is best for them and their partner and not judge others! Good for you and Kevin doing things when it's right for you!
ReplyDeleteYou guys sound like us! I was 29 when I got married and didn't even meet Bryan until I was almost 27. We have traveled waaaaay more than most people and lived it up! Deciding to start a family was not a natural process for us. We really had to talk and think it through. We liked our lives before kids and we really enjoyed spending time together, just the two of us. But then that biological clock starting ticking...
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post! It's easy to get wrapped up in what people think you're "supposed" to do, when really you're the one making (and living with) the decisions. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteI was married at 29, Ian was 32. We both had lots of fun adventures under our belt before we settled down. Now I'll have our first child at the age of 32 and I think the timing works out well for us, although I have several friends my age with much, much older children!
ReplyDeleteI was 34 and my husband was 44..... I loved having my twenties to travel, play and focus on my career. But different strokes for different folks. Everyone is different!
ReplyDeleteLove this post! You'll figure out what feels right for you! Luckily you have some super cute nieces to play with and you can then send them home, ha!
ReplyDeleteLOVE this post!!! I was babysitting the other day and kept texting a friend saying what I say a lot I don't want kids for like 10 years which would be at like age 32. A girl I went to high school with is already married and pregnant with her first. I can't imagine that. My parents got married later also.
ReplyDeleteI hear ya! We got married at 26 and 27, and aren't looking to have kids until at least 3 years from now. What's the rush?
ReplyDeleteBoth Brad and I waited ( I 27, him 37) and I wouldn't change a thing. I think having a chance to grow up and experience other relationships allows me to appreciate our marriage that much more .
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